Why care about emotions or energy anyway?!

I am kept awake in the wee hours of the morning being urged to write this by something within. So here I am, writing while my house is dark and silent and my husband sleeps beside me.

I have a lot of information on my business cards.

They tell you that I am certified in a number of things. That I am an energist. That I use flower essences, reiki, EFT, intuition, spiritual guidance. That I can help you. But what does it all mean and how can I help people, and why should they be helped in the first place?

I’m an expert of the energy body.

The spirit part of ‘mind, body and spirit’. The part that many forget they even have. It’s easy to forget because it’s not able to be seen with our eyes.

Just like the physical body, the energy body wants to be well. It wants to be balanced and wants flow. However it is much more subtle to tell if it is out of balance and needs assistance.

Fortunately, we have EMOTIONS  and feelings to guide us.

Take for example the word ‘Marriage’. If you say this word out loud or to yourself, does the energy of this word flow through your body pleasantly? Or does it begin its journey and get stuck somewhere? A lump in the throat, a twinge in the gut? Does saying it result in tension or pain in your body somewhere, a feeling of unease, an emotion such as fear or worry or anxiety? This latter situation is an indication of an energy disruption.

Visual representation of disrupted energy flow

Try the same thing with other words as an experiment. Try: ‘Sex’, ‘Food’, ‘Chocolate’, ‘Success’, ‘Love’, ‘Mother’, ‘Attractive’, ‘Money’, ‘Going on a plane’, ‘Spiders’, ‘Exercise’. Where does the energy go? Does it flow through or does it get stuck? Maybe some of those zipped through your energy happily (nice hey?), maybe others didn’t.

So why do we care?

Why do we care if we say a word and it feels awkward? Big deal, right! It’s just words, after all.

We care because not only is that feeling an indication of our stance towards that word on its own, but it is an indication of our beliefs and attitude towards that entire concept, and a clear indication that something is not quite right, energetically. It is then very likely that we could have issues with that part of our lives outwardly, and flow-on issues as a result. Therefore that feeling is VERY important.

Why the energy body?

Why don’t we just fix things with our physical worlds and be done with it? Or tell ourselves the truth of the situation and use our minds to think ourselves to be more positive?

If we want to solve a problem with ‘Exercise’ for example (say we feel dread when we think about exercising), we have three choices.

  1. Engage the physical body and make ourselves do it, one step after the other, even though we don’t want to.
  2. Engage the mental body and psych ourselves up to get out and exercise regularly, even though we don’t want to.
  3. Engage the energy body and evolve that feeling of dread into something more positive, so exercising is no longer dread-ful at all.

Options 1 and 2 aren’t going to be easy nor sustainable long term. They are going to require motivation, focus, and energy to maintain. However, option 3 addresses the root cause, has the entire person (mind, body and spirit!) in agreement and flow, and resolves the issue permanently. It makes it easy! And the energy body is quick to adjust when you work with a practitioner.

Gone are the days of pushing yourself through something that you hate when you can evolve how you feel!

My business cards could say so many things!

Via the energy body we can tackle anything and everything. Mental and emotional problems most definitely, such as stress or anxiety, but also physical problems which have emotional components. We can alter our beliefs, our relationships, concepts, our view of ourselves and others and the world around us. This means that our reality is able to be changed and improved! We are no longer limited by our past experiences or negative beliefs. We have the ability to change our lives for the better – and it’s easy!

When we are able to get in at the root of the issue, treating the energy body directly and improving how we feel about something without mental or physical effort, we just feel good!

Healthy energy flow!

Now how do I put all that onto a business card?

Feeling GOOD versus Not Feeling Bad

This is for the self-tappers, the people who use Emotional Freedom Technique on their own at home! I want to say YAY! and HOORAY! and give you a virtual thumbs up for using EFT for yourself (isn’t it awesome!?), but I have some suggestions which may make it even better.

It can be a very easy trap to fall into to just tap a problem to a point of nothingness: To go from feeling grumpy or frustrated or sad, and then tap on that down to a neutral place, where you can easily carry on with your day. At that neutral point you then can forget about it, because really, it doesn’t matter anymore – you’re not feeling it as a problem anymore due to the elimination of the negative feelings associated.

The issue with this is that this doesn’t allow a permanent resolution of the actual underlying problem to happen.

So a problem happens.. Someone’s words were hurtful. We might tap from our hurting (-8) down to feeling fine (around the neutral point of 0), but what could we ‘inject’ to help us in future if the same thing happened again? What positive message do we want to absorb and feel instead? How could we energise ourselves associated to an event like that?

Maybe the hurtful words related to a disagreement with our beliefs, or someone disliking a quality of ourselves. If we are proud of the person we are, and believe in the things we stand for, we should tap for that! (and if we don’t, well we should tap for that too!) And tap for the fact that we all have different views and approaches and that it’s more than okay to be the person that we are, even if it isn’t what others would choose for themselves. How lucky that in this life we can be the individuals that we are!

So upward we tap, for how proud we are ourselves and how much we like and love ourselves. We tap up to +7 and feel great, but decide to do at least one more round! We might tap for how much we appreciate other people in our lives, even if we disagree with them (in this example, the other person has given us a self-healing opportunity! Nice!). We might celebrate differences of opinion and freedom to think how we want to and express that. We might realise that we can choose who we want to associate with, and decide that we want to spend time with more like-minded people, and tap for those boundaries and choices being made and accepted. Allow it to unfold how it will, and energise with what comes naturally to you.

And maybe when we next disagree with someone or they tell us that there is a trait of us that they don’t like, that we might shrug and think “Well I love who I am. I’m okay with disagreeing or being wrong in someone elses eyes. I believe in me.”, and it doesn’t upset to the same degree anymore because there’s no wounded feelings, we know our truth and the truth of the situation. The ENERGY of those words FLOWS THROUGH! And we also know that if some element bothers us that we can repeat the process and feel even better about ourselves.

Encouraging the positive by tapping for it allows more significant changes within us to occur, instead of just “tapping away the negative” and staying the same underneath. Both offer evolution of how we feel, but tapping for the positive allows us to truly fly and become blissfully happy!

An Interview with Dr Silvia Hartmann

Dr Silvia Hartmann, you have achieved amazing things in the areas of emotional healing, energy healing, human and animal behaviour and development. You’ve developed and designed transformational, healing and educational tools including Project Sanctuary, The Genius Symbols, Emotional Transformation, and Energy EFT. You’ve also written and published powerful fiction and non-fiction books as well as created magical works of art and music..

Is there anything that you can’t do!?

Many things. But whatever I can’t do in the hard, I can do in Sanctuary. Thus, I can certainly have a go at most things, in my own way …

What brought you to energy work?

Like so many people, I have a measure of talent relating to extra sensory perception. But in the absence of some kind of logical explanation, I didn’t do that much with it. I was working as a researcher in modern animal behaviour. We tried to isolate physical factors that affected behaviour especially in companion mammals, such as dogs and horses. We found a lot but there was always an X-factor. One day, I had the revelation that the missing piece was the exchange of energies between social mammals. I wrote that up in the Harmony Program of 1993 and started to create training strategies based around these energy exchanges. I then switched to human behaviour and ran into the problem of the so called “unconscious mind.” This needed to be resolved, so I created Project Sanctuary. This was doing a good job and in 1998, I came across EFT, which was the first time I’d seen what I would call “real” energy work outside of my own research. I thought it would make a good bridge to get more people to understand the reality of energy work, so I put myself behind promoting it. In 2002, it was going great guns so I did some further refinement and research and created EmoTrance as the result of that. 

What do you feel has been your greatest success to date?

On a personal level, I would say the discovery of the 6th sense. That’s a pretty profound thing.

On the transpersonal level, I don’t know. At the moment, I’m betting on the SUE Scale.

You have been at the helm of many energy modalities, which is your favourite? Which do you personally use the most?

I use Project Sanctuary the most and that’s also what I turn to in moments of personal need. To me, it’s the most natural and satisfying way to interact with not just energy but really, the wider Universe. Wouldn’t be here without it …

What is your creative process like, how do you come up with new material?

Project Sanctuary, of course. I’m used to using it so we’re not talking about the ABC version of creating specific habitats. The thing is to have a question that needs answering. You need to want to know something. Without that, the whole process cannot start. “And what else is there?” is a good question when you run out.

Do you ever get creatively blocked or stuck?

Haha! That’s funny. 

What is your favourite song?

Starman by Bowie

You have worked with many people. What is the most impressive healing outcome that you have been a part of? Or your favourite?

I have never cured anyone of cancer. But it’s true, I haven’t tried. I have very little to do with the physical side of things; that’s a decision I made at some point. People get too hung up about physical healing. It’s understandable when you’re in pain, and yes, it’s the basis of existence. But we will die at some point, all of us, and for any of us, it could be much sooner than we think. So I’ve kind of specialist in the areas of the non-physical questions.

So then, what would I call a star healing event?

I was once with a builder who said quite viciously, “I’m so stupid,” because he’d left his hammer behind in his van. I turned around to him and said, “You’re not stupid.” He laughed and said, “Tell that to my teachers, they all agreed.”

I said, “They were wrong.”

He laughed a little nervously and looked up into my eyes. Hesitantly, he said, “What. all of them?”

And I looked right back at him and said, “Yes. All of them.”

His pupils dilated, this wave went through him and I knew for a fact his world would never be the same again. 

That’s the sort of healing I love.

What challenges have you faced when it comes to helping us humans through our struggles? What type of issues are the hardest for you to help others with?

Look, I don’t think helping people is hard. It’s not hard and it’s not long. It doesn’t entail strapping people to your back and carrying them around like some hideous burden.

The way I see it, I just look at the person and think to myself, “For sure, I am no angel, but what I have to give, I give to you.” 

That usually does … something.

And really, it is all I can do. I can’t do anymore than that. This being so, it is immaterial what the problem might be, or whether I can help or not in the sense of “fix that person so they can function according to societal standards at this time again.”

I know everyone wants healing to be physical healing. But I’m the soul guy. There aren’t enough of my kind about. Souls are really more important than their current physical bodies; and when they’re happy, or at least stop screaming for a bit, there’s more chance of physical changes as well.

As a mother yourself, do you have any suggestions for those who are having a hard time with parenthood? Or facing behavioural difficulties with their children?

Yes. De-stress and re-energize. The higher up towards +10 on the SUE scale you can go, the more “healing” you become to your environment, and the better your relationships become. And think of this not as a one time fix but like brushing your teeth. After every meal plus morning and night. With extra flossing. An ongoing process.

What’s your view on parents expressing their emotions in front of their children? (such as crying)

Whenever I hear the words “expressing emotions” I think of expressing oranges, or breast milk …

Seriously though, emotional honesty with children is … really, the 101 of having a meaningful relationship. Can you damage fragile children’s energy systems with emotional outbursts? Yeah, sure you can. Big time. But they won’t hate you for it and let you rot in an old people’s home or move to Australia when they grow up, not like the ones who have always been lied to will. That’s unforgivable, and thus it never is forgiven.

The best thing is to de-stress and re-energize, that makes then a good adult and a good role model. And if you’ve had a freak out, don’t beat yourself up for it. Do EFT or whatever, apologize to the kid if necessary, explain yourself and promise you’ll do better in future LOL.

So many people struggle with their self-view and how they feel about their bodies and themselves, do you have any advice or suggestions on how they might overcome this?

This is a very important issue, so much so that I gave a day’s lecture on the topic and made an energy therapy for body image called BeautyT

The thing to remember is that low self esteem, struggle, negative emotions are all stress susceptible. The more stressed a person is, the worse all of it becomes and it all lifts when stress recedes and the energy body becomes re-energized, starts to work again like the creator intented it to work.

Watch your stress levels first of all and if you think, “My god I’m hideous!” take it for an indicator that you’re clearly very stressed and need to take some energy action.

For body image problems that are related to traumas and sometimes also Guiding Stars, I advise to seek an experienced EFT or EmoTrance or MET practitioner and work on it.

Feeling bad about your body is a bad thing. It can ruin a person’s sex life.

Do you have a ritual by way of energy work, such as a morning prayer/meditation, energy self-defense, evening EmoTrance workout?

No. I go with the flow.

What makes you feel alive?

A tooth ache! Just kidding … Being alive is not something I tend to forget. I’ve had a number of near death experiences, I guess that sort of teaches you the difference.

What grounds you?

I feel like I’ve been permanently grounded ever since I arrived on Planet Earth! I take every opportunity to go higher that presents itself. Gravity takes care of the rest …

What is a typical day like for you?

Very exciting. Containing all sorts of different emotions. Lots of laughs. And a whole lot of very sensuous experiences in the widest possible metaphorical sense 🙂

What is the best tip you have for manifesting a success/goal/money/love? And what have you manifested personally?

Best tip is to aim high. Really, really high. If you start a band, don’t dream about playing down the local working man’s club. Dream about centre stage at Glastonbury instead. And keep that in mind as you go through the daily grind. Use it to uplift and inspire you.

I manifested a silver Mercedes Benz for practice at one time. That was interesting.

Energetically speaking, why do people experience depression?

No energy flow. Often not because they’re not being given energy, but because they’re not processing it. And they’re not outputting any energy. Which is why cats can help, they draw energy from people and eat it. Strange creatures that they are.

Do you believe it’s necessary to feel some low moments in life in order to enjoy the highs?

No. That’s a ridiculous idea. It’s like saying you have to eat shit in order to appreciate a good curry.

Do you feel that some people are born with natural talents or skills in things such as psychic ability?

My jury is still out on the nature/nurture debate.

Do you believe in: ghosts? aliens? fairies? politicians?

If I stop believing in them, will they go away and leave me alone?

What is your dream by way of energy awareness and the modern world? How would you like things to be?

I’d like for everyone to understand what emotions are and how they work. That would change everything. It does change everything, every time another person has that OMG moment when they understand they’re not really crazy after all.

What do you say to skeptics?

See ya later, alligator.

What frustrates you?

That I didn’t know what I know now when I was 14. (But an alternate timeline is under way in Sanctuary as we speak …)

What makes you laugh?

Monty Python and Father Ted.

What’s next for Silvia Hartmann?

Don’t know. We’ll have to wait and find out … 🙂

I’m in the unusual position, working in this day and age, that I publish my findings as they happen, live, as it were, rather than at the end of a 40 career in academy as it used to be the case. And I love being surprised by what I find. I think I’ve snuck that into my enquiry set ups at the baseline. I’m going to keep doing what I do and look forward to the next surprise. 

Anything else you’d like to share?

Yes. I am extremely grateful to be alive at this specific time in the history of the world, and in this place I’m in. Especially being a woman, there would be no way I could do the things I do in the Renaissance, in Ancient Rome or in Afghanistan, for that matter.

Praise be!

Using EFT For Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

What’s PMDD?

According to the Wikipedia entry for PMDD, it is defined as severe PMS leading up to the menstrual cycle as well as a few days after menstruation has begun.

The main emotional symptoms are listed as:

  • feelings of deep sadness or despair, and suicide ideation
  • feelings of intense tension or anxiety
  • increased intense sensitivity to rejection or criticism
  • panic attacks
  • rapid and severe mood swings, bouts of uncontrollable crying
  • lasting irritability or anger, increased interpersonal conflicts; typically sufferers are unaware of the impact they have on those close to them
  • apathy or disinterest in daily activities and relationships
  • difficulty concentrating
  • chronic fatigue
  • food cravings or binge eating
  • insomnia or hypersomnia; sleeping more than usual, or (in a smaller group of sufferers) being unable to sleep
  • feeling overwhelmed or feelings of being out of control
  • increase or decrease in sex drive
  • increased need for emotional closeness

Sufferers may have many of these symptoms or one. This is an issue close to my heart as once a month my world would turn upside down. I felt like I was possessed by something I had no control of. It impacted on my husband and children and friends and family and relationships. It impacted on how I saw the world around me. It was a thick emotional filter that existed between myself and the rest of the world.

How Can PMDD Be Managed?

I had tried herbs and vitamins and breathing and journalling and was still plagued by this ‘demon’. I took the flower essence She Oak for many months, and although my cycle regulated and became much shorter (from ~45 days to ~30, an 11 day period to 7 days), I still had the severe PMS which I came to understand as PMDD.

I asked a wise woman for her advice on how to handle it emotionally/energetically. Her first suggestion was to de-stress energetically, step one for any emotional issue! However I was using EFT and de-stressing constantly through this emotional storm and feeling as though I was using a bucket with holes in it to bail out a sinking boat. I wasn’t getting anywhere fast!

Her second suggestion was to treat this PMDD part of me as a separate part of me. A part of me who is needing much support and assistance and exploding in rage and emotion once a month, perhaps because of unmet needs. If I gave attention to this aspect throughout the cycle, would ‘she’ no longer need to release fury once a month? It is called the Aspect Model in Energy EFT.

Using The Aspect Model for PMDD

So I decided to track my progress through one menstrual cycle to see what presented and what the PMDD Aspect was going through. (CD = Cycle Day)

CD 6
The PMDD aspect just wants a break, and is frantic to get all of the unfinished things done around the house so she doesn’t have to see them (and be overwhelmed at PMS time). I decided to paint my laundry, and gave objects a permanent ‘home’ that needed them. I also gave things we had no use for to my local op shop to declutter.

CD 9
The PMDD aspect wants to cry and has a heavy heart. I had noticed a tension and sensitivity in general on this day. My husband was frustrating me. I tapped for “needs to cry”. I reassessed the PMDD aspect and felt anger and tapped for “the aspect is angry”. Once the anger had been cleared I felt the PMDD aspect was confused and overwhelmed and tapped for this. When I asked her what it was that she needed, I felt that she was needing: a friend, love, support, and feels like she has none of it. My husband was distant emotionally and criticising things and it was hitting a nerve in the sense of not meeting any of the PMDD aspect’s needs. It made it more obvious to me that I needed to seek out what I needed in a positive way – for example, ask for a hug and initiating a conversation instead of getting annoyed and feeling unloved.

CD 17
The PMDD aspect is happy, just needs sleep.

CD 18
The PMDD aspect needs reassurance. I tapped for “the aspect is okay”. I was then given the impression (mental image) that the aspect could march in and take control of everything and get things tackled very quickly. As though it was an issue if things weren’t under control. I tapped for “the aspect doesn’t need to be in control to be safe”.

CD 20
The PMDD aspect is frustrated about mess with her childrens’ toys, so I decided to sit down with my children (and husband) to work out how to manage the toys and what would happen if they weren’t tidied, rather than the mess being my responsibility all the time and causing emotional stress. The PMDD aspect is relieved that there are now rules in place. The PMDD aspect is worried about the period being on its way in the next week or so. I tapped for “the aspect thinks she will lose her cool”.

CD 28
The PMDD aspect needs to have a cry, and focus her attention inward. I tapped for “The aspect wants to cry” and “the aspect wants to focus within”. I also had a bath and took time for myself and gave myself permission to focus on me and me alone.

CD 31
The PMDD aspect is highly annoyed at her husband. I tapped for “The aspect thinks her husband is useless”. (sorry honey – this process was well before we had worked through our issues with intimacy)

My period started the following day. I expected to feel far more out of control than I did at this stage. It was significant progress. I recognised each feeling as it arose and gave it the attention that it needed.

Life After PMDD?

It has been several cycles for me since then. I don’t consider myself to have PMDD anymore. There are emotions that surface prior to a period (which I still call PMS due to the timing of when they appear). However they are MUCH more subtle and I no longer feel out of control or possessed by them. I am aware of the emotions, not driven by them. These emotions are healing opportunities that I welcome – each cycle revealing different issues to give attention to and shift beyond. I use EFT for these issues as arise and still occasionally ask the PMS aspect what she needs. She is quietly content most of the time these days. 🙂

Giving ourselves (our aspects!) the opportunity to express what we need and want for balance and happiness is so important. The answers are there within us and just need to be given permission to come forward and be heard.