Energy Q&A: Persistent problems and patterns

Q: I have a question regarding energy and attracting things to you. Do you think it is possible to have the wrong kind of energy emitting and therefore have the same problem arise over and over. Eg. People parking so close to my car I can’t get the baby capsule in or even myself without having to climb over seats (this is now affecting my husband too) and my other gripe is ants invading and infesting my house? I have tapped for how I feel about these problems and am comfortable that I can laugh or just get on with problem solving. But can I stop it from happening at all? What do you think? ~ Kristie

A: Hi Kristie! In short, yes, I believe it’s possible to attract these sorts of things, or at the very least notice them more significantly than others might.

So here’s my long answer. 🙂 My belief is that everything is a metaphor or a message. Being realistic though, we could drive ourselves crazy looking at EVERYTHING with such scrutiny. So instead, what I personally do is look for the same message or pattern to repeat at least three times before taking action. You’ve said these things have repeated again and again, so this is clearly something worth giving attention to.

Tapping for your feelings about the problem as it has happened is fantastic! And it is a really positive step to get to a point where you can find the funny side, but maybe there’s more going on here and more to give attention to.

In terms of a metaphor, what do you think we could glean from an ant infestation and also the car park squishing? We’re looking for something that may have you believing that things like the ants or the car park are something that “just happens” to you. It is really a personal thing for you to interpret, but my thoughts on the two combined are:

  • An issue with getting the personal space you feel you deserve
  • An issue with others disrespecting you, your property, space or desires
  • An issue with others blatantly ignoring you or your wishes
  • A feeling of helplessness against something or someone

There may be more you can think of. Go with your gut and see how each of those feels!

If you recognise that one of those things is a problem, tap for it and see how it unfolds and what it evolves into. See what you are reminded of or what thoughts or situations present. Tap for the feelings and thoughts that come up.

[Alternatively, tap rant all about that subject, and all associated aspects that you can think of.]

Use the SUE scale to measure your progress, from -10 to +10 in terms of how you feel about the issue. Try and tap through to a neutral feeling about the issue. Once you are at around that neutral point, then consider how you wish to feel. Some examples being: “My personal space is respected”, “Others treat me with respect”, “I am strong and assertive and my needs are met”. Tap until you are as high up the SUE scale as you can! When you think you’re done, try another round. 🙂

The ants may not immediately scurry back where they came from, and you may still get inconsiderate car parkers beside you, but in terms of attitude, belief and manifesting, looking at any underlying issue is a positive step forward and cannot hurt to potentially reduce the occurrence of these things, due to believing and knowing with your entire being that you deserve better. Our beliefs craft our reality.

Good riddance, Groundhog Day!

Yesterday was a bad day. I was really tested by my children, I struggled with them, I fought with them, they seemed to tantrum and complain about everything, they seemed to have some sort of disagreement with each other or with me every few minutes, it seemed not much went smoothly at all. I was a bit of a wreck by the end of the day.

This morning I was woken by my 2.5 year old son in my room talking to me. Asking a zillion questions, making demands of me. Another day had begun for me before I was even fully conscious. Ugh.

I was lying underneath a woollen doona in bed, but I felt heavy and held down with dread and fear of how the day was beginning and how it would most likely end up. I did not want to get up.

I recognised that I had started this new day as if it was still the previous day. I was feeling and acting as though it was already the case. No wonder I didn’t want to get up.

I also thought about the concept of manifestation and how “acting as though you already have your goal” is a surefire way to manifest something. Well if I was acting/feeing/believing as though a day of shouting, tantrums and troublemaking was ahead of me, what do you suppose might have been in my future?

So I walked my talk. I tapped. And I tapped. And I tapped.

I tapped for everything I was feeling when I thought about the day ahead. All the negative self-talk. All the heavy feelings. All the negative beliefs. And when I felt clearer, more neutral, I tapped for how I wanted the day to go. How I wanted to feel!

And from this ~15 minutes of attention, it became easy to get out of bed. I didn’t have to talk myself into it or force myself up and moving. I didn’t have to sigh and accept a ‘Groundhog Day’ existence that I begrudged (which was how it felt before the tapping).

The kids responded in kind and were cooperative with getting ready to go out. We were earlier than usual and I didn’t need to shout or nag and complain.

I did the kindergarten run with more energy and enthusiasm and calm than I had the day before. And now (this afternoon) with the day over half over, the effects have persisted. My children have had their moments where they complained or argued or fought but my reactions were less “here we go again!” and more “what does my child need?”. I am relaxed and not worried or bothered on a personal level. I’m not wanting to throw my hands up in the air and quit. Today has already been a far better day than yesterday.

With such a positive outcome today, I’m going to give proper time and attention to how I begin my day, and what metaphorical blanket is hanging over me before I get up. I’ll shift any negative predictions I have, so I can embrace my little ones in the moment and for who they are, instead of how I don’t want them to be.

There is a lot of focus on manifesting in relation to future goals and successes, but what about daily manifestation? If we gave more attention to the every day, could the long term successes come easier perhaps?

Let’s all start the day: expecting the best, accepting that we don’t need to control everything for it to be okay, that we will manage with what comes our way and go easily with the flow, that the outcome will be one that is perfect for each of us. And we know that it will easily be the case because we will tap for it, shifting any resistance and imprinting it upon our energy body!

An Interview with Dr Silvia Hartmann

Dr Silvia Hartmann, you have achieved amazing things in the areas of emotional healing, energy healing, human and animal behaviour and development. You’ve developed and designed transformational, healing and educational tools including Project Sanctuary, The Genius Symbols, Emotional Transformation, and Energy EFT. You’ve also written and published powerful fiction and non-fiction books as well as created magical works of art and music..

Is there anything that you can’t do!?

Many things. But whatever I can’t do in the hard, I can do in Sanctuary. Thus, I can certainly have a go at most things, in my own way …

What brought you to energy work?

Like so many people, I have a measure of talent relating to extra sensory perception. But in the absence of some kind of logical explanation, I didn’t do that much with it. I was working as a researcher in modern animal behaviour. We tried to isolate physical factors that affected behaviour especially in companion mammals, such as dogs and horses. We found a lot but there was always an X-factor. One day, I had the revelation that the missing piece was the exchange of energies between social mammals. I wrote that up in the Harmony Program of 1993 and started to create training strategies based around these energy exchanges. I then switched to human behaviour and ran into the problem of the so called “unconscious mind.” This needed to be resolved, so I created Project Sanctuary. This was doing a good job and in 1998, I came across EFT, which was the first time I’d seen what I would call “real” energy work outside of my own research. I thought it would make a good bridge to get more people to understand the reality of energy work, so I put myself behind promoting it. In 2002, it was going great guns so I did some further refinement and research and created EmoTrance as the result of that. 

What do you feel has been your greatest success to date?

On a personal level, I would say the discovery of the 6th sense. That’s a pretty profound thing.

On the transpersonal level, I don’t know. At the moment, I’m betting on the SUE Scale.

You have been at the helm of many energy modalities, which is your favourite? Which do you personally use the most?

I use Project Sanctuary the most and that’s also what I turn to in moments of personal need. To me, it’s the most natural and satisfying way to interact with not just energy but really, the wider Universe. Wouldn’t be here without it …

What is your creative process like, how do you come up with new material?

Project Sanctuary, of course. I’m used to using it so we’re not talking about the ABC version of creating specific habitats. The thing is to have a question that needs answering. You need to want to know something. Without that, the whole process cannot start. “And what else is there?” is a good question when you run out.

Do you ever get creatively blocked or stuck?

Haha! That’s funny. 

What is your favourite song?

Starman by Bowie

You have worked with many people. What is the most impressive healing outcome that you have been a part of? Or your favourite?

I have never cured anyone of cancer. But it’s true, I haven’t tried. I have very little to do with the physical side of things; that’s a decision I made at some point. People get too hung up about physical healing. It’s understandable when you’re in pain, and yes, it’s the basis of existence. But we will die at some point, all of us, and for any of us, it could be much sooner than we think. So I’ve kind of specialist in the areas of the non-physical questions.

So then, what would I call a star healing event?

I was once with a builder who said quite viciously, “I’m so stupid,” because he’d left his hammer behind in his van. I turned around to him and said, “You’re not stupid.” He laughed and said, “Tell that to my teachers, they all agreed.”

I said, “They were wrong.”

He laughed a little nervously and looked up into my eyes. Hesitantly, he said, “What. all of them?”

And I looked right back at him and said, “Yes. All of them.”

His pupils dilated, this wave went through him and I knew for a fact his world would never be the same again. 

That’s the sort of healing I love.

What challenges have you faced when it comes to helping us humans through our struggles? What type of issues are the hardest for you to help others with?

Look, I don’t think helping people is hard. It’s not hard and it’s not long. It doesn’t entail strapping people to your back and carrying them around like some hideous burden.

The way I see it, I just look at the person and think to myself, “For sure, I am no angel, but what I have to give, I give to you.” 

That usually does … something.

And really, it is all I can do. I can’t do anymore than that. This being so, it is immaterial what the problem might be, or whether I can help or not in the sense of “fix that person so they can function according to societal standards at this time again.”

I know everyone wants healing to be physical healing. But I’m the soul guy. There aren’t enough of my kind about. Souls are really more important than their current physical bodies; and when they’re happy, or at least stop screaming for a bit, there’s more chance of physical changes as well.

As a mother yourself, do you have any suggestions for those who are having a hard time with parenthood? Or facing behavioural difficulties with their children?

Yes. De-stress and re-energize. The higher up towards +10 on the SUE scale you can go, the more “healing” you become to your environment, and the better your relationships become. And think of this not as a one time fix but like brushing your teeth. After every meal plus morning and night. With extra flossing. An ongoing process.

What’s your view on parents expressing their emotions in front of their children? (such as crying)

Whenever I hear the words “expressing emotions” I think of expressing oranges, or breast milk …

Seriously though, emotional honesty with children is … really, the 101 of having a meaningful relationship. Can you damage fragile children’s energy systems with emotional outbursts? Yeah, sure you can. Big time. But they won’t hate you for it and let you rot in an old people’s home or move to Australia when they grow up, not like the ones who have always been lied to will. That’s unforgivable, and thus it never is forgiven.

The best thing is to de-stress and re-energize, that makes then a good adult and a good role model. And if you’ve had a freak out, don’t beat yourself up for it. Do EFT or whatever, apologize to the kid if necessary, explain yourself and promise you’ll do better in future LOL.

So many people struggle with their self-view and how they feel about their bodies and themselves, do you have any advice or suggestions on how they might overcome this?

This is a very important issue, so much so that I gave a day’s lecture on the topic and made an energy therapy for body image called BeautyT

The thing to remember is that low self esteem, struggle, negative emotions are all stress susceptible. The more stressed a person is, the worse all of it becomes and it all lifts when stress recedes and the energy body becomes re-energized, starts to work again like the creator intented it to work.

Watch your stress levels first of all and if you think, “My god I’m hideous!” take it for an indicator that you’re clearly very stressed and need to take some energy action.

For body image problems that are related to traumas and sometimes also Guiding Stars, I advise to seek an experienced EFT or EmoTrance or MET practitioner and work on it.

Feeling bad about your body is a bad thing. It can ruin a person’s sex life.

Do you have a ritual by way of energy work, such as a morning prayer/meditation, energy self-defense, evening EmoTrance workout?

No. I go with the flow.

What makes you feel alive?

A tooth ache! Just kidding … Being alive is not something I tend to forget. I’ve had a number of near death experiences, I guess that sort of teaches you the difference.

What grounds you?

I feel like I’ve been permanently grounded ever since I arrived on Planet Earth! I take every opportunity to go higher that presents itself. Gravity takes care of the rest …

What is a typical day like for you?

Very exciting. Containing all sorts of different emotions. Lots of laughs. And a whole lot of very sensuous experiences in the widest possible metaphorical sense 🙂

What is the best tip you have for manifesting a success/goal/money/love? And what have you manifested personally?

Best tip is to aim high. Really, really high. If you start a band, don’t dream about playing down the local working man’s club. Dream about centre stage at Glastonbury instead. And keep that in mind as you go through the daily grind. Use it to uplift and inspire you.

I manifested a silver Mercedes Benz for practice at one time. That was interesting.

Energetically speaking, why do people experience depression?

No energy flow. Often not because they’re not being given energy, but because they’re not processing it. And they’re not outputting any energy. Which is why cats can help, they draw energy from people and eat it. Strange creatures that they are.

Do you believe it’s necessary to feel some low moments in life in order to enjoy the highs?

No. That’s a ridiculous idea. It’s like saying you have to eat shit in order to appreciate a good curry.

Do you feel that some people are born with natural talents or skills in things such as psychic ability?

My jury is still out on the nature/nurture debate.

Do you believe in: ghosts? aliens? fairies? politicians?

If I stop believing in them, will they go away and leave me alone?

What is your dream by way of energy awareness and the modern world? How would you like things to be?

I’d like for everyone to understand what emotions are and how they work. That would change everything. It does change everything, every time another person has that OMG moment when they understand they’re not really crazy after all.

What do you say to skeptics?

See ya later, alligator.

What frustrates you?

That I didn’t know what I know now when I was 14. (But an alternate timeline is under way in Sanctuary as we speak …)

What makes you laugh?

Monty Python and Father Ted.

What’s next for Silvia Hartmann?

Don’t know. We’ll have to wait and find out … 🙂

I’m in the unusual position, working in this day and age, that I publish my findings as they happen, live, as it were, rather than at the end of a 40 career in academy as it used to be the case. And I love being surprised by what I find. I think I’ve snuck that into my enquiry set ups at the baseline. I’m going to keep doing what I do and look forward to the next surprise. 

Anything else you’d like to share?

Yes. I am extremely grateful to be alive at this specific time in the history of the world, and in this place I’m in. Especially being a woman, there would be no way I could do the things I do in the Renaissance, in Ancient Rome or in Afghanistan, for that matter.

Praise be!